Healthy boundaries are one of the key factors to the success of a nanny placement, but one of the easiest to let slip because of the inherently close household environment. However, it’s important to remember that these boundaries protect both the family and the employee by building mutual respect and maintaining clear relationships. Here are four ways that will help to keep them in check:
- Start with a Clear Employment Agreement: One of the items that promotes a professional, not personal, framework for the working relationship is to have an Employment Agreement that outlines duties, responsibilities, schedule, and expectations. We draft this for you, including your job description, prior to the start date. This helps avoid misunderstandings and creates accountability for both sides.
- Set Communication Frequency Expectations: We recommend establishing a preferred method for day-to-day updates (texts, notes, apps) in order to keep the conversation work-related. Additionally, decide how often you will check in formally (quarterly reviews are recommended). Again, this firmly establishes the employer/employee relationship.
- Use Written Communication for Requests: For both parties, it is best for items such as schedule variances, time off requests, additional duties, and various other communication to be detailed in an email. This helps to avoid confusion and ensures that details are not forgotten or miscommunicated. Being consistent about this for both parties will be helpful.
- Keep In-Person Communication Focused on Childcare: While it’s natural to chat with your nanny in person, those day-to-day conversations should primarily center on the children’s needs, progress, and overall well-being. It’s best to avoid sharing too much about your personal life or asking questions that might prompt your nanny to share her own challenges, as this helps prevent unnecessary workplace drama.
- Respect Privacy and Home Life: Because a nanny works inside your home, it’s helpful to set clear boundaries around private and shared spaces. Families should communicate which rooms are off-limits and respect the nanny’s personal time when she/he is off duty (e.g., not calling or sending texts after hours). This clarity protects everyone’s privacy, and helps maintain a professional work environment.
Families who set and honor healthy boundaries create a stronger, more positive relationship with their caregiver. If you set up a structured relationship and communication up front, it can help you avoid conflict and drama, and ensures everyone can focus on what matters most, the children.
If you have questions, or would like to start a nanny search, please reach out to Jessica or Kimberly to schedule a call.